FINDING THE POSITIVE IN THE PAINFUL

This past holiday weekend, I celebrated an anniversary that most people would choose to forget.  OSU vs. Michigan in Ann Arbor two years ago, our family experienced a situation that stopped us in our tracks, but has forever changed our lives for the better.

Abby, our senior in high school at the time, went to visit her brother and friends in Ann Arbor.  Having been a high school student who visited University of Michigan often during high school and then attended as an undergrad, I was fully aware of the party scene before, during and after football games.  I also knew Abby, much like her mother, loved to have a good time.

The abbreviated version of our long drawn out tale reads this way... Intoxicated Abby leaves her friends at one fraternity tailgate ALONE to find her brother and his friends at another.  She sees her car and decides to drive to find him.  Within 4 blocks she sideswipes two parked cars then crashes into a tree.

The very next morning after Abby was released from jail, Mike and I emailed our closest friends and family explaining what had happened.  We asked everyone to support us in our "bubble" as we knew the judgement and rumor mill would be brutal.  We hired an attorney and Abby worked with him to understand what would be happening to her over the course of the next year to 18 months.  It was going to be a long haul, but she committed to all of the terms.

Again, abbreviated version, but these are some of the consequences... no driving unless to work or school, friends that once were besties were no longer around, crazy spring break trip to Mexico became a trip with Mom and Dad to Arizona, a secured admission to U of M went under review and somehow, sororities black ball mistakes like Abby's, go figure.

As Abby did her work release program, I watched my daughter do things that most people think only happen in the movies.  As a student who needed to be committed to school during the week, Abby could only participate in the work program on Saturdays and Sundays.  Her experiences were varied including picking up trash on various highways, cleaning police cars and jail cells and distributing groceries at the food bank.  Every time I reached out to her following her "time", she shared experiences with a sense of compassion for the others "working" with her and expressed real humor in the comings and goings of each and every day in the bright yellow work vest.

Abby worked diligently and satisfied all of her requirements.  Her probation officer challenged her, but in the end she could relate to his harsh approach.  She handled her client attorney relationship alone with little parent intervention... these are the "paper work" documented successes.

This past Saturday was Abby's 19th birthday.  So although it was the 2-year anniversary calendar day of the "bad" decision, we celebrate her determination, dedication and growth.  Abby's commitment to right her wrongs and our decision to step back and let her navigate her journey has made her stronger, more responsive and extremely resourceful.

We rarely learn things from the happy, easy times in our lives.  It is when we are brought to our knees that we are forced to listen, learn and make the changes necessary to move on.  Happy Birthday Abby, you experienced darkness and yet only two short years later you shine brighter than ever before.

 

CHANGE

It was the first weekend in August when I woke up on Saturday morning and decided I hated my hair.  I called my salon and whined to the receptionist that I would do anything to get an appointment with my stylist, Dayna.  Seriously?  Who calls Saturday morning and expects to get an appointmet?  I did.  "Dayna is booked solid today, sorry," the receptionist explained.  And yet, someone cancelled and I was able to make the CHANGE I wanted when I wanted it.

CHANGE is scary.  Most people don't love CHANGE.  Schedule changes are annoying, relocations are terrifying (I can personally relate) and operating outside of yourself or the self you have known forever is prickly.

So why am I suggesting that CHANGE is a good thing?  For SO many reasons.  CHANGE challenges our routines.  It makes us stop and question.

Back in August I decided to cut my hair.  Create a "new" me.  Hair is hair, so it's safely a temporary change but quite frankly, so is every other change you may decide to make.  Life is fluid, forever changing.  Growth is CHANGE, so if you are willing to learn and continue to grow, you are forever changing.

My closet consultation business is about changing the way men and women look and feel on a daily basis.  People, young and not so young, hire me to help them CHANGE the way they approach their wardrobe.  In 2012, a woman reached out to me to help her improve her style and daily approach to dressing.  I asked Randi to describe how I have "CHANGED" her...  
     "Because I hate to shop and have no fashion sense, my clothes were not contemporary and tended to be the same colors.  Thanks to Kara, I not only look more stylish, I am also more creative in putting things together.  I feel much more confident and receive more compliments than ever before"
Randi just celebrated her 70th birthday and is feeling extremely fashionable.

I'm challenging you to CHANGE.  Get a new look through hair, makeup or fashion.  Join a gym or studio and challenge yourself physically.  Abort your current job or career for something you have always wanted to do.  Eliminate the toxic relationships in your life.

In addition to embracing a CHANGE in your personal life for the betterment of you, investigate a personal behavior that will benefit others.

CHANGE is good.  We get comfortable in old habits and routines.  We have one fabulous life.  CHANGE it up!

KOBL with Dayna from FLIP Salon in Ferndale.JPG

Dayna from FLIP Salon in Ferndale

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Happy Birthday Beautiful!

 

 

CHANGE

It was the first weekend in August when I woke up on Saturday morning and decided I hated my hair.  I called my salon and whined to the receptionist that I would do anything to get an appointment with my stylist, Dayna.  Seriously?  Who calls Saturday morning and expects to get an appointmet?  I did.  "Dayna is booked solid today, sorry," the receptionist explained.  And yet, someone cancelled and I was able to make the CHANGE I wanted when I wanted it.

CHANGE is scary.  Most people don't love CHANGE.  Schedule changes are annoying, relocations are terrifying (I can personally relate) and operating outside of yourself or the self you have known forever is prickly.

So why am I suggesting that CHANGE is a good thing?  For SO many reasons.  CHANGE challenges our routines.  It makes us stop and question.

Back in August I decided to cut my hair.  Create a "new" me.  Hair is hair, so it's safely a temporary change but quite frankly, so is every other change you may decide to make.  Life is fluid, forever changing.  Growth is CHANGE, so if you are willing to learn and continue to grow, you are forever changing.

My closet consultation business is about changing the way men and women look and feel on a daily basis.  People, young and not so young, hire me to help them CHANGE the way they approach their wardrobe.  In 2012, a woman reached out to me to help her improve her style and daily approach to dressing.  I asked Randi to describe how I have "CHANGED" her...  
     "Because I hate to shop and have no fashion sense, my clothes were not contemporary and tended to be the same colors.  Thanks to Kara, I not only look more stylish, I am also more creative in putting things together.  I feel much more confident and receive more compliments than ever before"
Randi just celebrated her 70th birthday and is feeling extremely fashionable.

I'm challenging you to CHANGE.  Get a new look through hair, makeup or fashion.  Join a gym or studio and challenge yourself physically.  Abort your current job or career for something you have always wanted to do.  Eliminate the toxic relationships in your life.

In addition to embracing a CHANGE in your personal life for the betterment of you, investigate a personal behavior that will benefit others.

CHANGE is good.  We get comfortable in old habits and routines.  We have one fabulous life.  CHANGE it up!

KOBL with Dayna from FLIP Salon in Ferndale.JPG

Dayna from FLIP Salon in Ferndale

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Happy Birthday Beautiful!

 

 

WHAT I'M LOVING FOR FALL/WINTER 2017

Every season my friends and clients ask me the same questions:
"What's the BIG color this season?"
"Can I still wear my ___________?"
"What trends are the most relevant?"


#1 CRUSHED JEWEL TONE VELVET
I can't get enough of this look.  So far I have purchased two sleeveless tanks, one rose the other wedgewood blue, a wine colored jumpsuit and another sleeveless top in a burnt out floral pattern.  Use velvet as a rich textural component when putting together your cool weather looks, dressy or casual.

#2 COUCH/SOFA FLORALS
Most of you probably mini barfed at the idea but YES, your grandmother's sofa flowers are now all the rage.  Look for trend forward patterns in bell bottom pants, pencil skirts, tunic dresses, coats and more.

#3 EMBROIDERY

At the risk of having too much of this trend, I now have two pairs of jeans, over the knee boots, ankle high boots and a bomber jacket that all have embroidery.  You can find cool pieces anywhere from Target to Neimans.  Buy some.  This trend is a keeper.

Those are my personal TOP three.  Here is a quick summary of everything else FALL...
RED is "the" color.  Fun FUR.  Fringe is still INBROWN is the new black.  One shoulder and cold shoulder still living large.  70's plaid.  Fish net accents.  Victorian collars.

I welcome the change of seasons.  I am a BIG fan of Fall and Winter fashion.  There is a lot to play with now that the weather has changed.  Don't play it safe (boring), dive in and enjoy the FUN!
 

 

 


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